Such a sweet girl, really
We are at the grocery store getting some last minute supplies for our holiday dinner and as I put the stuff in the car Chica says, very loudly, pointing, “HEY. THAT MAN IS REALLY SMALL. LOOK AT THAT SMALL MAN. THAT MAN IS REALLY SMALL. WHY IS THAT MAN SO SMALL…”
I hiss at her as I crouch down to look her in the eye, “quiet please. It is impolite to yell and point at people. Tell me sweetie, who is bigger, you or your brother?”
“Well, brother is bigger.” Chica says. “Alright then, who is smaller, Mama or Daddy?” She says smiling, “You are much smaller than Daddy.” I ask her, “Who is bigger Mama and Daddy or Aunt Mary and Uncle Jake?” Chica states, “Well you and Daddy are smaller than Auntie Mar and Uncle Jake!” laughing and grinning at our game.
I further explain, “It is not kind to yell and point at people and talk about how your think they look. Sometimes that makes people feel badly and most of the time it makes them feel uncomfortable and sad because you are talking about them. You are a kind hearted girl and have been name calling a lot lately and I would like you to stop. It is rude. You may not be rude. Do you understand?”
“Yes.” she says.
“Okay then, next time if you are wondering about someone or have something to say, you may say it to me very quietly so. And no pointing. We don’t want to make people feel badly with rude behavior.”
Chica grins and nods her head and then tells me, “Well, he didn’t hear me, so, so what?”
Sometimes I want to bash her silly. I feel this long, uphill road before me and I am already tired at 3 1/2. Is that how they wear you down? They start early so when they are teenagers you have no defense and let them run wild and free?